On maybe a weekly basis, I write extensive plans to overhaul my life in an outpouring of self-improvement. You name it, I have convinced myself I can become a marathon runner in a month, that a smoothie maker will change my life and even that if I schedule every second of my day off I’m totally not just going to procrastinate and wind up eating cookies, re-watching gossip girl…
Of course, it doesn’t take a genius to figure out that all attempts thus far have been futile. No matter how good my intentions, I always seem to lapse back into doing things the way I always have. Namely last minute, on a shoestring budget and with a twitch in my eye brought on by a healthy combination of sleep deprivation and excessive caffeine consumption. So, after two decades on this planet I am making the executive decision that enough is enough. No more failed detoxes (both digital and juice oriented), no more intimidating to do lists and certainly no more impulse, “must have” purchases.
From now on I’m scrapping overzealous self-improvement plans as I have realised something very important. The mere fact that I try so hard to improve is clear evidence of the fact that I do indeed work hard! If I didn’t see the faults in the way I work and have the energy to want for self-improvement, then I would be demonstrating much more disregard for the direction of my life than when I try and (more often than not) fail to change.
It’s a problem I’m certain people have had for years but with one major catch. Since the rise of Social Media and the influencing culture that has come with it, simply improving yourself isn’t enough. To be “successful,” now more than ever, means having it all. The trendy clothes, the “aesthetic” holidays, the healthiest diet and the largest following all whilst attending University, securing graduate jobs, going out, making valuable mistakes and ticking about a million other boxes! I don’t know about you but I have no idea how I could possibly achieve all of that and not burn out. Attempting to be the best at absolutely everything is not only exhausting. It’s impossible and frankly dangerous.
So, this is me calling bullshit on a culture that makes being human, an inadequacy. I don’t need to set myself goals to know that I’m working on myself and I certainly don’t need a leopard print co-ord to change the world…on the other hand totally sign me up for that, it sounds HOT! Self-improvement certainly has its place in our lives but trying to be something we are not all in one go is an overwhelming burden that does not need tackling all at once. Instead we could all start being a bit kinder to ourselves and accepting those days when we just need to be a slob.